Comments for Is That Even Legal http://www.isthatevenlegal.com Musings of a stay at home mom Thu, 04 Mar 2010 12:48:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 Comment on You might have married a redneck if… by Julie http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/2010/02/26/you-might-have-married-a-redneck-if/comment-page-1/#comment-276 Julie Thu, 04 Mar 2010 12:48:03 +0000 http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/?p=151#comment-276 Too funny!!! Guess you guys have a little farm now! Too funny!!! Guess you guys have a little farm now!

]]> Comment on You might have married a redneck if… by Shannon Smith http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/2010/02/26/you-might-have-married-a-redneck-if/comment-page-1/#comment-273 Shannon Smith Sat, 27 Feb 2010 04:24:02 +0000 http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/?p=151#comment-273 LOL I would have killed him. But that's me. :) .-= Shannon Smith´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.stayinghomewithmyson.com/2009/11/wordless-wednesday-veterans-day/">Wordless Wednesday – Veterans Day Version</a> =-. LOL I would have killed him. But that’s me. :)
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]]> Comment on Dating Single Mothers by Ali http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/2008/09/05/dating-single-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-270 Ali Wed, 06 May 2009 05:55:38 +0000 http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/?p=50#comment-270 Amber, so many Kudos to you, your efforts here (even with new baby), and your young family. I found you tonight, after being 'incensed' at blatantly ignorant (or designed-to-be-inflammatory) comments on an article re: single parent current struggles (nod to single dads)currently faced in our great nation, on USA Today (paired with 'Economic Homeless' exploding 'tent cities'). I was at an important community leadership breakfast some years ago in San Diego, and the Keynote Speaker was a wonderful, ground-breaking Doctor raised by a single mom...Dr. Ben Carson. I have been an active Democrat since switching from Repu-(sorry can't finish that) age 22. I have been paying taxes since 14; I am 39. I have my degrees, I have two kids; I am a proud single mom (by choice? NO! Accepting serial cheating -even before you/great woman/wife come along- is not detectable until too late). In this new economy, I realize I won't see my $27/hr salary, or health/dental insurance for some time. I just dated a similar high-functioning narcissistic "Carl." (Funny how powerful Google is to find you and put you at top of the heap based on my query when your actual article/post was so long ago) I am convinced that Carl is an alien infected with malignant narcissism (not illegal), and has left the planet or sadly died silently without feeling love or validation that he desperately needed. Funny when people comment like he (100% ignorantly) on such a profound issue. My retort would be: "Careful... give yourself a hug, and when you come out of surgery, make sure you thank the Surgeon/Doctor/Nurses... they may have came from a single mom (parent) that you have spent so much precious time on earth slamming with vile, reckless abandonment." We all have gifts; some struggle to find them. Parent or not, being a single person/no mate or parent is a special, often no-choice-yet-blessed position. Thanks, Amber - please don't totally go 'silent' -- you speak of fun/love/strife-over-struggle...regardless of 'status'...single (happy) parent, or single... you go, girl!!! THANK YOU for being here! "No venom"; JUST viable, *real solutions*/love (without alterior motives obviously)...citations/facts far too numerous to list here... Much love and *big hugs ~as a human being*... A. P.S. Please do write again soon ~ when you can (best of health/wealth wishes to you)... Amber, so many Kudos to you, your efforts here (even with new baby), and your young family. I found you tonight, after being ‘incensed’ at blatantly ignorant (or designed-to-be-inflammatory) comments on an article re: single parent current struggles (nod to single dads)currently faced in our great nation, on USA Today (paired with ‘Economic Homeless’ exploding ‘tent cities’). I was at an important community leadership breakfast some years ago in San Diego, and the Keynote Speaker was a wonderful, ground-breaking Doctor raised by a single mom…Dr. Ben Carson. I have been an active Democrat since switching from Repu-(sorry can’t finish that) age 22. I have been paying taxes since 14; I am 39. I have my degrees, I have two kids; I am a proud single mom (by choice? NO! Accepting serial cheating -even before you/great woman/wife come along- is not detectable until too late).

In this new economy, I realize I won’t see my $27/hr salary, or health/dental insurance for some time. I just dated a similar high-functioning narcissistic “Carl.” (Funny how powerful Google is to find you and put you at top of the heap based on my query when your actual article/post was so long ago) I am convinced that Carl is an alien infected with malignant narcissism (not illegal), and has left the planet or sadly died silently without feeling love or validation that he desperately needed. Funny when people comment like he (100% ignorantly) on such a profound issue. My retort would be: “Careful… give yourself a hug, and when you come out of surgery, make sure you thank the Surgeon/Doctor/Nurses… they may have came from a single mom (parent) that you have spent so much precious time on earth slamming with vile, reckless abandonment.”

We all have gifts; some struggle to find them. Parent or not, being a single person/no mate or parent is a special, often no-choice-yet-blessed position.

Thanks, Amber – please don’t totally go ’silent’ — you speak of fun/love/strife-over-struggle…regardless of ’status’…single (happy) parent, or single… you go, girl!!! THANK YOU for being here! “No venom”; JUST viable, *real solutions*/love (without alterior motives obviously)…citations/facts far too numerous to list here…

Much love and *big hugs ~as a human being*… A.

P.S. Please do write again soon ~ when you can (best of health/wealth wishes to you)…

]]> Comment on Dating Single Mothers by Amber http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/2008/09/05/dating-single-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-269 Amber Sat, 07 Mar 2009 17:47:49 +0000 http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/?p=50#comment-269 It's not that I don't think the advantage exists. Because, in all honesty, you're absolutely right. It does! No, it may seem fair, but since when was life ever completely fair. That's something that we as single moms just have to deal with. Women without children can definitely be more desirable, but they don't deserve love more than we do. Nor do I think men should just steer completely clear of women with children. We're good people too ;) I would never expect a man to immediately get know my children either. I would need to "research" them, shall we say, and when we're all ready then the children can become involved. Ask my fiance. We've been dating for over a year now and my kids (my daughter especially) are still getting use to the idea of sharing mommy with someone. It's a hard road and takes a special man to decide he wants to get involved. But I'm glad he did! Great comment Eric! Thank you for sharing it with us. It’s not that I don’t think the advantage exists. Because, in all honesty, you’re absolutely right. It does! No, it may seem fair, but since when was life ever completely fair. That’s something that we as single moms just have to deal with. Women without children can definitely be more desirable, but they don’t deserve love more than we do. Nor do I think men should just steer completely clear of women with children. We’re good people too ;)

I would never expect a man to immediately get know my children either. I would need to “research” them, shall we say, and when we’re all ready then the children can become involved. Ask my fiance. We’ve been dating for over a year now and my kids (my daughter especially) are still getting use to the idea of sharing mommy with someone. It’s a hard road and takes a special man to decide he wants to get involved. But I’m glad he did!

Great comment Eric! Thank you for sharing it with us.

]]> Comment on Dating Single Mothers by Eric http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/2008/09/05/dating-single-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-268 Eric Sat, 07 Mar 2009 07:52:25 +0000 http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/?p=50#comment-268 When a man first meets a woman, he likely has *zero* attachment to her children. Although he might find her devotion as a single parent attractive, the negatives--increased stress, uncertainty, awkwardness, obligations, etc.--far outweigh the benefits. This feeling can change, but that is likely how it is initially. Skinny women with naturally large boobs and thin waists who smile and laugh a lot are generally found to be more physically attractive. That's not to say that these women deserve any more (or less) love than other women, but they still have an attractive advantage. Even though looks are only foot-in-the-door, they still matter, if only initially. Likewise, women without children also have an advantage. It sucks and it's not fair... honestly it isn't. But, all said and done, it's also naive to think (or refuse to understand) that this advantage does in fact exist. When a man first meets a woman, he likely has *zero* attachment to her children. Although he might find her devotion as a single parent attractive, the negatives–increased stress, uncertainty, awkwardness, obligations, etc.–far outweigh the benefits. This feeling can change, but that is likely how it is initially.

Skinny women with naturally large boobs and thin waists who smile and laugh a lot are generally found to be more physically attractive. That’s not to say that these women deserve any more (or less) love than other women, but they still have an attractive advantage. Even though looks are only foot-in-the-door, they still matter, if only initially. Likewise, women without children also have an advantage. It sucks and it’s not fair… honestly it isn’t. But, all said and done, it’s also naive to think (or refuse to understand) that this advantage does in fact exist.

]]> Comment on Dating Single Mothers by William McCraw http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/2008/09/05/dating-single-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-258 William McCraw Thu, 22 Jan 2009 06:55:33 +0000 http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/?p=50#comment-258 As a Single Father, I was shunned by many in almost any community I came to live in. I know and understand how it feels to experience this type of prejudice. Being a single parent is a lesson in perserverence as well as Love. Do single parents deserve Love?... More than anyone, yes! Should a MAN run from single mom's... No a MAN never run's... even from the occassion flying cell phone. Ha ha ha ha. But, that's just it. you must find a MAN and send the BOY home... Little Boys always run away... so pack him a pb and j, tell him its a big world out there and that he's a brave little soldier and send him back home to mommy... Single mom's have enough children to raise without having to raise another child, who is not their own. Carl, Grow up!... don't worry the boogeyman is not real... he can't hurt you anymore. Turn on your nightlight and let the grown folks talk. To all you single mom's... your prince is out there. Real men recognize you for the Heroes that you are. For lessons in Love and how to spot a real man... check out my Blog. Never give up! Remember, you are the first teacher, and the last comfort. You are the unsung Hero! As a Single Father, I was shunned by many in almost any community I came to live in. I know and understand how it feels to experience this type of prejudice.
Being a single parent is a lesson in perserverence as well as Love.
Do single parents deserve Love?… More than anyone, yes!
Should a MAN run from single mom’s… No a MAN never run’s… even from the occassion flying cell phone. Ha ha ha ha.
But, that’s just it. you must find a MAN and send the BOY home… Little Boys always run away… so pack him a pb and j, tell him its a big world out there and that he’s a brave little soldier and send him back home to mommy… Single mom’s have enough children to raise without having to raise another child, who is not their own.

Carl, Grow up!… don’t worry the boogeyman is not real… he can’t hurt you anymore. Turn on your nightlight and let the grown folks talk.

To all you single mom’s… your prince is out there. Real men recognize you for the Heroes that you are.
For lessons in Love and how to spot a real man… check out my Blog.
Never give up! Remember, you are the first teacher, and the last comfort. You are the unsung Hero!

]]> Comment on Wordless Wednesday by Mojo http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/2009/01/21/wordless-wednesday-5/comment-page-1/#comment-257 Mojo Wed, 21 Jan 2009 22:02:37 +0000 http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/?p=111#comment-257 I concur. It's stunning. (Of course being the kind that can never leave anything alone, I'd have to see what it looked like in black and white. But that's just me.) <abbr><em><abbr><em>Mojos last blog post..<a href="http://mojo11.blogspot.com/2009/01/sticky-save-date.html">Sticky: Save the Date!</a></em></abbr></abbr></em> I concur. It’s stunning. (Of course being the kind that can never leave anything alone, I’d have to see what it looked like in black and white. But that’s just me.)

Mojos last blog post..Sticky: Save the Date!

]]> Comment on Wordless Wednesday by Amber http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/2009/01/21/wordless-wednesday-5/comment-page-1/#comment-256 Amber Wed, 21 Jan 2009 19:30:52 +0000 http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/?p=111#comment-256 Gorgeous shot! I absolutely love the reflection of the sky in the water. Gorgeous shot! I absolutely love the reflection of the sky in the water.

]]> Comment on Wordless Wednesday by Carmi http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/2009/01/21/wordless-wednesday-5/comment-page-1/#comment-255 Carmi Wed, 21 Jan 2009 18:37:22 +0000 http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/?p=111#comment-255 Shannon's right: this should be blow up, framed and hung in the most prominent place you can find. Absolutely stunning photo! Where is this? My WW is up...nowhere near as gorgeous as yours, mind you! Still, hope you'll pop by and say hi. http://writteninc.blogspot.com/2009/01/treasure-hunter.html All the best, Carmi Shannon’s right: this should be blow up, framed and hung in the most prominent place you can find. Absolutely stunning photo! Where is this?

My WW is up…nowhere near as gorgeous as yours, mind you! Still, hope you’ll pop by and say hi.

http://writteninc.blogspot.com/2009/01/treasure-hunter.html

All the best,

Carmi

]]> Comment on Wordless Wednesday by Beth F http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/2009/01/21/wordless-wednesday-5/comment-page-1/#comment-254 Beth F Wed, 21 Jan 2009 18:37:15 +0000 http://www.isthatevenlegal.com/?p=111#comment-254 I like reflection photos. Nice one. I like reflection photos. Nice one.

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